One Recommendation For Women on How To Get A Promotion Work!
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Since Spring 2016, I have received two promotions at work and then two new jobs at increasing levels of roles & responsibilities. I want to share with you one recommendation I have that is connected to how God has released these promotions and new jobs to me! Alot of employers are looking for people with excellent soft skills! Hard skills (technical skills) are great, but employers today are looking for people who have emotional intelligence and leadership qualities!
The one recommendation I have on how to receive a promotion or new job at work is: CHARACTER. I will break it down into four main sections in which I demonstrated SOUND character, which contributed to promotions in the spirit realm that manifested in the natural realm. However, we must first base this in Truth. When God tells us 'against such there is no law', He is telling you that if you WALK in fruit of the Spirit, there is NO LAW ANYWHERE, not in the spirit realm and not in the natural realm, that will block and stop you! He is telling creation that if you walk in fruit of the Spirit, YOU WILL PROSPER! This is a promise of GOD!
#1. LONGSUFFERING - (adj.) HAVING PATIENCE IN SPITE OF TROUBLES, ESPECIALLY THOSE CAUSED BY OTHER PEOPLE
Having longsuffering is one of the keys to prosperity! People at work who have authority and/or power above you may treat you in ways you don't like. There may be assignments you are given that are not your responsibility. You may feel like all the work is being dumped on you. But I am here to tell you, that if you suffer long, you can use this situation to your advantage!
A perfect example I can share with you: In one of my previous positions, I had to set up a call with important stakeholders. Long story short, everyone got an email about the purpose of the meeting and I was given permission to invite the stakeholders. One of the people who joined the call yelled at me on the phone for 5 minutes (!) because I invited her manager to the meeting. NEVER NOT ONCE DID I RETALIATE OR SPEAK SOMETHING I REGRET BECAUSE OF MY EMOTIONS. I had to control my emotions!
My supervisors called me throughout the day. The stakeholders contacted them about the situation. They couldn't believe how I handled that - how I did not retaliate. When I got off the phone with them, that is when I began to cry. Not tears of sadness, but tears of joy that I had allowed God to WORK WITHIN ME! My tears were a form of worship to God that I was grateful that He had perfected my character! Long story short, I was able to use this situation and talk myself up in my job interview for the next position that I had applied! The interviewers were also impressed!
#2 PEACE - (NOUN) FREEDOM FROM DISTURBANCE, QUIET AND TRANQUILITY
Having peace will set you apart in the workplace! In the workplace, people are always in gossip, drama, and have beef with some coworker or another! People can discern with intuition who has peace and who is a troublemaker.
One day, my manager in one of my former positions asked me in 1:1 call if I was having trouble with the team or any issues I wanted to address. I guess she had heard that some people were not getting along. NEWS TO ME! I told her that I was fine, I didn't have any issues, and that I literally didn't even know people were having issues with the team. Guess what she said to me: [In summary] That's what I like about you. You come to work, you get your work done, you work well with people, and you stay out of drama.
It PAYS (literally take the check to the bank and cash it!) when you stay out of workplace drama! Stay out of the mess, and the mess will stay out of your money! #OKAY!
#3 MEEKNESS - (NOUN) HUMBLE, TEACHABLE, SUBMISSIVE, COMPLIANT
No matter how much education, degrees, training, or experience you may have, you must humble yourself! Anyone who exalts THEMSELVES, shall be brought low. Anyone who humbles THEMSELVES, shall be exalted! I believe in being teachable, having a teachable spirit, a tongue of the learned. No matter how much I know, I know there is always more to learn. I do not know it all and I am not above mistakes.
When I go into team meetings, I listen. I analyze what the person is saying before I speak. (Truth is I'm still trying to perfect this in my personal life, but I have mastered it at work!) I confirm whether this person is the subject matter expert, would they know more about this topic than others because of that. I let other people speak. I then come in and add anything or confirm anything that needs to be confirmed, or highlight any issues that arise from the discussion.
I submit to authority! If you do not learn how to submit to authority, the truth is you can never prosper. You may not like the person or how the person treats you, but it's not necessarily the person you are respecting, it is their position! Their office of authority that you are respecting! I refuse to confront, yell, berate, disrespectfully challenge my manager or those in authority over me. This is the POSTURE of my heart! You put a curse on yourself when you do this. Let me take you to the Truth :
Power here means AUTHORITY. When you do not reverence authority as such, you receive unto yourself damnation, which is to say a curse. It will take you months or years to climb out of that. There you have it - not rocket science at all, is it?
Am I a 'Yes ma'am' woman? No, it's simply to say I use wisdom and proper judgment on when it is required for me to speak. Otherwise, I keep quiet at work. We have to discern when we are getting too emotional at work. Walk in the Spirit, and not in the flesh and you will find that your emotions will not over take you anymore. If there is a situation in which I feel I need to say something, i will wait until the situation cools off and then go to the appropriate party who can help me to resolve the situation. If you over react upfront, colleagues and managers will no longer see you in a good light.
This is in line with a 6-month stakeholder feedback I recently received at work. People recognize when you are calm, non-confrontational, but get people in order when you need to.
#4 JOY - (NOUN) JUBILATION, TRIUMPH, REJOICING, GREAT DELIGHT
YOU CAN'T MANUFACTURE JOY! YOU EITHER HAVE IT OR YOU DON'T! YOU EITHER DO WHAT IT TAKES TO GO TO GOD AND RECEIVE JOY, OR YOU DON'T! WHEN YOU HAVE IT, PEOPLE RECOGNIZE IT AND THEY WANT TO BE AROUND YOU.
HAPPINESS IS NOT THE SAME AS JOY. JOY IS A STATE OF BEING THAT NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS IN LIFE, NO MATTER YOUR SITUATION, YOU REJOICE IN AND BECAUSE OF THE GOD OF YOUR SALVATION.
THE THING WITH JOY IS THAT YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE TO SMILE A WHOLE LOT, AND PEOPLE CAN RECOGNIZE THE JOY. JOY IS NOT IN A SMILE. SOME OF THE MOST JOYFUL PEOPLE ON THE INSIDE BARELY SMILE. SOME OF THE PEOPLE WHO LACK JOY THE MOST, ARE ALWAYS SMILING.
THE LORD GIVES JOY AND NO MAN OR THING CAN TAKE IT AWAY!
TRUTH - EMPLOYERS HIRE PEOPLE WHO HAVE JOY. THERE IS A CONNECTION, AN ANOINTING THAT PEOPLE CAN RECOGNIZE ON THOSE WHO HAVE JOY.
COME OUT OF MISERY AND STEP INTO THE JOY OF THE LORD!
In every key situation I experience at work, I take mental note or write it down on how I handled it. You can use these experiences in promotional reviews or job interviews. Learning how to perfect your emotional intelligence will elevate you amongst your peers.
What are your thoughts? Give me feedback - how will you incorporate this into your life? What tips do you have for me to succeed at work? I would love to hear them.